Handling Disagreements from Proverbs

Handling Disagreements from Proverbs


Anyone can be involved in an argument. Paul and Barnabas are reminders that even faithful brethren are not immune from having disagreements (Acts 15:35-41). Occasionally, our disagreements may get out of hand and we end up saying things we later regret. So what are some safeguards that we can use in handling disagreements in a Christian way? Here are a few suggestions from the book of Proverbs:


Be friendly. Try not to be adversarial in your point of view. “He that hath friends must shew himself friendly” and “A friend loveth at all times” (Proverbs 18:24; 17:17).

Ever use kindness. Cordiality goes a long way towards maintaining tranquility. “A soft answer turneth away wrath but grievous words stir up anger” (Proverbs 15:1).


Let up some. Most disagreements would remain friendly if we would just back off a little. “…but he that refraineth his lips is wise” (Proverbs 10:19).

Overcome with good. Oftentimes in the heat of an argument we lash out in retaliation. “Say not, I will do so to him as he hath done to me” (Proverbs 24:29).

Value their opinion. Listen attentively to what others have to say. “He that answereth a matter before he heareth it, it is folly and shame unto him” (Proverbs 18:13).

Introduce soothing words. You can get your point across in a nice way. “Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones” (Proverbs 16:24).

Never engage irate behavior. If a disagreement becomes ugly—conversation over! “Put away from thee a forward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee” (Proverbs 4:24).

Grow taller. The desire to win an argument often escalates it. Bigger people will refuse. “…therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with” (Proverbs 17:14).


Be Loving!

“Love never fails” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).


May God continue to bless us all!

Richard Stevens, III

Minister of the Beckley Heights church of Christ

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